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Saturday, January 7, 2012

Sex and God - Episode 45

A new book will be out soon that will change the way you look at sex and your own sexuality. It's called "Sex and God" and in this episode we talk with author Dr. Darrel Ray about some of the most interesting parts of the book.

Reason Rally
American Atheists Convention
Recovering from Religion
"Sex and God: How Religion Distorts Sexuality" on
Dr Darrel Ray's Skepticon talk
Pastafarian Sex Prayer
Take Heart Project


  1. Hmmm, I'm not entirely done with this podcast but I just heard Dr. Darrel Ray say that the Unitarians numbers are dropping because they have a liberal attitude about sex. I guess I'd like to see the sources on that. a) I don't think the numbers are dropping but this is very difficult to determine based on the limited research I've done in the last few minutes b) if they are I don't think you could prove the reason for as I would guess the reasons are many. In fact as an atheist if I had kids I would certainly bring them up as UU's partially because of the fact that they have the only healthy sex education program. I do agree that with more religions sex is a key tool used for control - but I think UU falls outside of that depending on the community.

  2. I revise my last comment: That's a pretty conclusive article on the actual number of members. The numbers there though I don't think show a dramatic drop and lower in comparison than the drops in other congregations - again, I think you would be hard pressed to correlate that to the lack of sexual guilt as the primary reason for the decline.

  3. Sorry for going crazy here but I'm adding more as I listen to more of the podcast, I swear I read a book that really directly correlated the idea of sex and the church as a control a long time ago and I'm fairly certain it was The Meme Machine by Susan Blackmore. I'd actually have to look at the book to be sure.

  4. Hi Sara!

    Thanks so much for listening and sharing your thoughts on this. I think you're right. Perhaps Dr. Ray was being a little speculative about that one. :)

    Thanks for the book recommend, I will check it out. Susan Blackmore is a name I've heard many times in the freethought community!

  5. I actually found the book I was thinking of, it was actually: Virus of the Mind: The New Science of the Meme by Richard Brodie, only when I read it it was new, like 10 years ago. ;) Really a good read. I'm sure the Susan Blackmore book would be good too, I'm partially through Sex at Dawn right now too. ;)

  6. Just a quick comment and question - Dr. Ray said that Mormons believe that Jesus had 3 wives when he came to America. As a former Mormon, I'm curious to know where he heard that. It's not in the Book of Mormon, which describes Jesus' visit to the Americas. Jesus did select 3 of his male disciples and made them immortal so that they could spread the gospel until he returns the second time. But there's nothing there about wives.